Being with a person who is depressed is exhausting. People who are depressed find it hard to communicate and are very sensitive to criticism. The sun may be shining and everything may seem fine to you, but a depressed person will see nothing but gloom and disaster. They are very irritable, and young people may be hostile and aggressive” (taken from 'Stress and Depression’ written by Sarah Lennard-Brown for teenagers, but excellent for any age. Available in libraries).

Even if a depressed person wants help, they might have no idea how others can help them, because it is very difficult for them to think, to concentrate, to make decisions.  

• Make extra efforts to stay in contact. Spend time with them. Take the time to talk about what's going on. Be patient.  “You may have to hear the same tale of woe again and again. This is part of a natural healing of the mind and can be very helpful for the sufferer,”  (Stress and Depression’ by Sarah Lennard-Brown).
• Find out all you can about depression. People who are suffering from depression can find it very difficult to concentrate and remember new information.
• Make sure that they are eating properly.
• Encourage the individual to keep going with at least part of their normal routine. Be gently positive with them about their achievements.
• Gently try to include the person in social and pleasant events.
• If they talk of suicide, take it seriously and make sure they keep their doctor informed. Help them to accept help and treatment.
• Look after yourself. Talk to a health professional yourself if you are worried. You will need support too. Keep in touch with friends, so that you yourself don’t feel isolated.