Library Service

We have a number of books, videos and tapes on a variety of topics from parenting skills to relationship issues. These may be borrowed for one month by contacting Bro Stan Dawes. To send an email to Stan, just click on his name. The Support Service will pay the forwarding postal costs and the borrower the return costs.

All Library books may be borrowed by contacting Stan Dawes

	Choosing to Love (A Marriage Guide) by Sister Olive Dawes Stewart Printing 1996 This book is the result of many years experience providing Marriage Enrichment courses. Principally aimed at young marrieds and those preparing for marriage, it is also useful for anyone wanting to maintain a vital and growing marriage relationship. This book can be purchased from the CSS at a cost of $15. Also available on loan.
	Really Relating by David Jansen & Margaret Newman Random House 1989 Good relationships of all kinds are made - they don't just happen. Relating to another person is a skill that can be learned, and this book gives some sound practical advice about looking at oneself in the context of the relationship, how to create lasting intimacy and how to grow a rewarding relationship.
	Co-Dependant No More by Melody Beattie Hazelden 1992 Is someone else's problem your problem? That can be a dilemma for those who believe that bearing another's burden is a Christian duty. If you have lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else, you may be co-dependant. The author's personal experience of this stultifying situation, and of escaping it helps to delineate a map of that perplexing world, and charts a path to freedom.
	Changes That Heal by Dr Henry Cloud Zondervan 1990 This book looks at 4 basic tasks of becoming a mature Christian. These are: Bonding to others Separating from others Sorting the good and the bad in ourselves and others Becoming an adult. It attempts to explain why people develop emotional and relationship problems and ways in which they can solve them.
	The Pre-Marriage Book by Sister Robyn Henry and Peg Pearsall Printing Now in its second printing, this workbook is a resource for engaged couples. The material is compiled around issues that often need resolving after marriage. Marriage celebrants are encouraged to use them in pre-marriage counselling sessions. Available for purchase at $20.
	Coping with Loss by Printing The second in our proposed series of booklets on topical issues is now available! ‘Coping with Loss’ A useful reference for every family. It summarises the causes, characteristics and phases of grief and suggests ways we can comfort and encourage one another. Ecclesias or individuals can obtain free copies from the CSS Librarian. Ask your ecclesia to get copies for all your families
	Getting On with Your Teenagers by Bob Montgomery & Dr.Laurel Morris Lothian Publishing 1988 A practical guide toward mutual acceptance and understanding. A step-by-step program that can be worked through to improve a relationship with a teenager. Some of the specific problem areas covered are: coping with trouble spots, building good feelings, stopping arguments, speaking up for what you want, negotiating, problem solving.
	Living and Loving Together by Bob Montgomery & Lynette Evans Penguin 1983 A self-help manual which looks at some marriage difficulties and ways to enhance relationships. The authors note that a systematic and sustained effort will need to be made if the manual is to be used effectively.
	The Making of Love by Steve & Sharon Biddulph Doubleday 1999 This book makes it clear that “all healthy couples fight, and that learning to be close and yet individual is what relationships are all about. That men and women are different, but not worlds apart! That sexual tension and communication problems are opportunities to spark into new levels of closeness and honesty."
	Choosing To Love Again by Dr. Gary Rosberg Focus on the Family 1992 The author aims to help husbands, wives, parents and children friends and co-workers settle differences and overcome problems that occur in day-to-day relationships. It is suggested that the book will help people: Identify the underlying causes of conflict Recognise the signals of emotional pain or damage in a relationship Build genuine communication Discover the power of forgiveness to heal broken relationships Take positive steps to build strong relationships before they are damaged.
	Getting Back Together by Bettie Youngs Billick Ph.D & Masa Goetz, Ph.D. Bob Adams Inc 1990 It is claimed that this “helpful and compassionate book is a blueprint for surviving the pain of separation, sorting out the pieces and reconstructing a partnership.” The authors work in areas of counselling, stress management and personal effectiveness.
	Relationship Rescue by Dr. Phillip C. McGraw Vermilion 2000 Diagnosing what’s wrong with a relationship. The book claims that the author can help people to: Take personal responsibility Escape wrong thinking Embrace relationship truths Learn the formula for success in relationships Renegotiate a relationship Learn to live with love and harmony.
	Growing Pains - What to do when your children turn into teenagers by Dr. David Bennet Doubleday 1987 Dr. Bennet explains what happens when the teenage years strike, and what parents can do to help their kids and themselves get through them. “While teenagers are experiencing adolescence, parents are confused in their middlescence. It’s a time of change for both teenagers and parents”. At the time of writing the author was the head of the Adolescent medical Unit at the Royal Alexandra hospital for Children in Sydney.
	Hold Me While You Let Me Go by Rich Wilkerson Harvest 1983 A practical approach guided by biblical concepts to assist parents in helping teenagers towards maturity.
	The Father Lode by Phil Dye Allen & Unwin 1998 Looks at some of the hard realities of fatherhood: men’s emotional response to fatherhood, their role as support during pregnancy, their response to childbirth, the effect it might have on their sexual life. It stands for equality in parenting while recognising the differences between men’s and women’s natural style.
	Stepfamily Realities by Margaret Newman New Harbinger 1994 This book addresses the major issues confronting members of stepfamilies. It examines the key relationships, identifies potential problem areas and explains what is happening, why it is happening, and what to do about it.
	Family Life in the Lord compiled by Don and Ellen Styles Christadelphian Scripture Study Service 1984 A collection of articles which have appeared in Christadelphian magazines addressing various issues in family life.
	Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph Finch Publishing 1997 In this book Steve Biddulph looks at the most important issues in boys’ development from birth to manhood and discusses the warm, strong parenting and guidance that boys need. He brings his humour, honesty and practical knowledge of families to the vital task of raising sons.
	The Secret of Happy Children - A Guide for Parents by Steve Biddulph Bay books 1984 The author argues that we deeply affect our children’s self-esteem, and in fact shape their future, by what we say and how we say it. Children can be programmed to be losers often before they even start school.
	Free To Be Me by Barbara & Terry Tebo Bantam Book 1993 The book sets out to examine feelings — why we feel as we do and how the way that we feel about ourselves effects our lives. It is suggested that many of our feelings and beliefs are gained in childhood and that at that time we are dependent on others and learn to suppress the feelings that are unacceptable and show only that side which will gain us approval. The authors believe that this teaches us that our happiness and self-worth depends on others, rather than being of our own making.
	Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend Strand Publishing 1997 Having healthy Boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks out those things for which we are responsible. Boundaries effect all areas of our lives. Physical boundaries help us to determine who may touch us and how, and when. Mental boundaries give us freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage us from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others. Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God’s will from our own. The authors set out to offer biblically based insights into how to set healthy boundaries.
	P.E.T. - Parent effectiveness Training by Dr. Thomas Gordon Plume – Penguin 1975 A method to bring parents and their children together and to show parents how to help their children become mature, healthy, happy and loving. The sorts of results that have been claimed as outcomes are: Less fighting, fewer tantrums and lies Warmer feelings, closer relationships Rules that are established and followed More responsible children Parents that are neither dictators nor doormats Genuine friendship and respect between parents and children.
	Teaching Children Self Discipline by Dr. Thomas Gordon Random House 1991 Provides new ways parents and teachers can build self-control, self-esteem, and self-reliance by teaching the skills required to govern a family, classroom or group more democratically, less autocratically.
	You Can Have a Family Where Everybody Wins "Christian Perspectives on Parent effectiveness Training" by Earl H. Gaulke Lutheran Publishing 1976 Dr. Thomas Gordon a the author of P.E.T. writes “Dr. Gaulke shows parents how they can integrate their Christian beliefs with a more humane philosophy of child rearing. Invaluable for both parents and those who counsel parents, this pioneering book clearly documents the need for specific communication skills to practice Christian love. It also provides theological support for those who have been searching for an alternative to the dictatorial or permissive approach to parenthood.
	Your Too young, Your Too Old by Lyn Barrow R.J. Cleary 1971 Practical help for teenagers and their parents. Identifies problems and offers easy to follow solutions.
	False Assumptions - Relief From12 Christian Beliefs That Can Drive you Crazy by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend Zondervan 1994 They hold that while they may sound scriptural, false assumptions like: It’s selfish to have my needs met If I’m spiritual enough, I will have no pain or sinfulness If I have God, I don’t need people Guilt and shame are good for me Just doing the right thing is more important than why I do it, can have a devastating effect on mental and spiritual and even physical welfare. They write about how the bible, properly understood, brings emotional spiritual health and growth.
	Facing Depression by Michael Lawson Hodder & Stoughton 1989 Covers are wide range of approaches to the whole spectrum of depressive experience and stresses the importance of seeking the right kind of help. Written from a Christian background.
	Depression — Finding Hope and Meaning In Life’s Darkest Shadow by Don Baker & Emery Nester Multnomah Press 1983 A pastor and psychologist write about personal accounts of the journey to wholeness. The book talks about the general nature of Depression, some of the problems which are encountered and the help which is available.
	When The Music’s Over - A Journey Into Schizophrenia by Richard Gates & Robin Hammond Uni. Of New England 1993 An autobiographical account of a sufferer from this disorder compiled by the authors. The autobiographical material is followed by a commentary on schizophrenia together with some general information.
	Growing Through Stress by Kath Donovan Aquila Press 1991 The author is the director of The Christian Synergy Center writes about the nature and purpose of stress and some coping strategies.
	The Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield Jamison Picador 1997 Dr. Jamison is one of the foremost authorities on manic-depressive illness, also known as “Bi-polar Disorder”. She has experienced it firsthand. While pursuing her career in academia and medicine, she was affected by the same exhilarating highs and catastrophic depression that afflicted many of her patients. This book is a personal memoir of candour and courage, wit, humour and expensively won wisdom, which examines manic-depression from the perspectives of both healer and the healed. The British Medical Journal said of the book, ‘A landmark…A vibrant and engaging account of the life, love and experience of a woman, a therapist and academic and a “patient” who can offer much understanding, comfort and inspiration and illumination to both those afflicted by depression and manic-depressive illness and those who want to understand some of the experience’
	Why Do Christians Shoot Their Wounded by Dwight L. Carlson M.D InterVarsity 1994 In this book the author marshals recent scientific evidence that demonstrates many emotional problems are just as physical as diabetes, cancer and heart disease. “While he does not discount personal responsibility, he shows from both the Bible and up-to-date medicine why it isn’t sin to hurt. The book is dedicated to those many “God-fearing Christians who — to the best of their ability — are walking according to the Scriptures and yet are suffering from emotional symptoms. Many of them have been judged for their condition and given half-truths and clichés by well-meaning but ill-informed fellow-believers.” One reviewer wrote, “For those who care for the suffering, here is vivid proof that those in emotional pain deserve compassion not condemnation”
	Inside Out by Dr. Larry Crabb Nav Press 1988 The author claims that real change is possible if one is willing to start from the inside out, to develop a vital union with God, richer relationships with others, and a deeper sense of personal wholeness. Real change begins with facing the realities of one’s own life and letting God help you to become a person who is free to be honest and loving.
	Stop Domestic Violence by Lou Brown, Francois Dubau, Merrit McKeon St. Martin’s Griffin 1997 The book is written by people with first hand experience of domestic violence and the first half is geared to support network people like parents, friends, both personal and professional who can make a difference. The second half is directed at the victims of abuse. It provides an action plan for battered women and for those around them. It offers steps on how to combat such violence within families and communities.
	Helping Victims of Sexual Abuse by Lynn Heittritter & Jeanette Vought Bethany House 1989 Comments about this book include: “A complete guide to the psychological, social, spiritual,…needs of both victims and their families as well as those who work with them.” “This book uncovers the problem, points to a solution that has history behind it — it works! It’s biblical, it’s practical, while still providing a way to process all the inner turmoil and confusion that the victim experiences.”
	Breaking Through by Cathy Ann Matthews Strand Publishing 1997 This book is Cathy Ann Matthew’s moving personal story —the horrors of her sexual, emotional, and physical abuse as a child, the devastating effects on her life and the practical steps she took with her belief in God towards recovery. It provides encouragement for people who were abused as children and teenagers, and those who support them.
	The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans Adams Media Corporation 1996 The book explores the damaging effects of verbal abuse on children and the family, and offers some valuable insights and recommendations. It encourages victims or helpers in their efforts to change such a situation.
	Recovering From Churches That Abuse by Ronald Enroth Zondervan 1994 The book aims to help victims of spiritual abuse and their families cope with reentry the Christian mainstream. It includes topics such as dispelling emotional confusion, restoring relationships, retaining independence and making life adjustments.
	What to do when you find out Your Wife Was Sexually Abused by John Courtright & Dr. Sid Rogers Zondervan 1994 Written by two men who had to deal with past sexual abuse in their own marriages, the book is directed to husbands who are trying to cope with the confusion, fear and anger that results when their wives first confront and then begin to recover from past abuse. Important issues like identifying the warning signs, handling the relationship changes, how to avoid behaving like an abuser, helping a wife toward recovery and husbands finding support.
	Homosexuality and the Politics of Truth by Jeffrey Satinover, M.D. Baker Books 1999 This new look at one of the most contentious issues of our time draws together what science really says about a homosexual gene and a review of the flawed research reported in the popular press, The author produces a model based on modern science and psychological understanding of habit, compulsion, and addiction. One of the positive reviews of the book says, “By far the most best, most comprehensive, most balanced and incisive treatment of the subject I have yet seen.” (Roger Sider, M.D. Medical Director, Pine Rest Hospital)
	Setting Love In Order by Mario Bergner Monarch Publications 1995 Mario Bergner lectures frequently on the subject of homosexuality and is the director of “A Redeemed Life” a ministry of pastoral care for the sexually broken. Paul Viitz, Professor of Psychology, New York University comments” “Bergner’s powerful account of his healing from homosexuality, largely through his faith, is also deeply informed by a psychological understanding of some of the major problems and crises which he faced.” He recommends it highly.
	What Some Of You Were - Stories about Christians and homosexuality. Editor – Christopher Keane Matthias Media 2001 There are many Christians who do not wish to embrace a homosexual identity. Because of their faith and their belief in the Bible, these people chose not to act on their same-sex attraction. This book contains stories of people who have made that choice, and share their struggles, and the hope their stories will bring hope and encouragement to others.
	Jonathon you Left Too Soon by David B. Biebel Spire 1998 This is the intensely personal story of how a father and a Christian came to terms with his bereavement when his three year old son died.
	A Grace Disguised by Gerald L, Sittser publisher This book sets out to explore the depths of human sorrows, whether due to illness, divorce, or the loss of someone that we love. It holds that what we do with the circumstances of our life is the deciding factor in resolving such griefs.
	The Gift of Pain by Phillip Yancy & Paul Brand Zondervan 1997 Dr. Paul Brand’s work with leprosy patients in India and the United States convinced him that pain is really one of God’s gifts. This is the inspiring story of this man’s fifty-year career as a healer, his reflection on the mystery of pain and its importance as an indicator that lets us know that something is wrong.
VIDEOS
	Sex Has A Price Tag by Pam Stenzel, Christian Youth Productions 1996 Pam Stenzel, a former director of alpha women’s Centre combines her personal story and extensive counseling experience into a hard-hitting look at the consequences of sexual activity outside of a lifetime commitment. It tackles the tough issues of sex with candour, insight and a challenge to young people.
	Me Depressed? Don’t Make Me Laugh ! A guide to overcoming depression presented by Spike Milligan, by Monkey See Productions 1996 In this video people who are suffering from depression and experts in the field, talk about their experiences with depression and teach techniques that they have successfully used to manage and overcome it.
	Manic Depressive Illness – a guide to living with it by Monkey See Productions 2000 Six people who have manic-depressive illness (Bi-Polar Disorder) discuss the effect that it has on their lives and teach ways to manage this serious illness. The video was produced in consultation with Professor Phillip Mitchell director of the Mood Disorder Unit at the Prince of Wales Hospital and Dr. Meg smith, president of the NSW Association for Mental Health.
	What Now - Positive Options for an unplanned pregnancy by True Colour Productions for The Pregnancy Problems Centre Inc 2002 Three Australian women relate their own experiences of pregnancy in difficult circumstances. How did they feel when they found out that they were pregnant? What did they do? How do they feel now?

Disclaimer Inclusion in the Support Service Library does not necessarily mean that the contents of the book are endorsed by the Christadelphian Support Service. The service is backed by the NSW Christadelphian Committee and is supported by ecclesias across the state